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Desi Rainbow is a community of South Asian LGBTQIA+ people, parents and families — supporting each other since 2017.
Find support Make a giftFree monthly groups and one-to-one peer support — for LGBTQIA+ people, and separately for parents and families at any stage of acceptance.
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Friday, November 13, 2026
6pm ET · Brooklyn, NY
Celebrate the Festival of Lights, queer style: drag artists and performers, a queer mela marketplace with vendors, and more than 250 guests.
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Desi drag artists read children's books that celebrate being different — The Many Colors of Harpreet Singh, Always Anjali, Neither.
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In 2015, one mother struggled to find support from her community, so she began building it. Now we are a thriving group of allied Desi parents, families, and LGBTQIA+ people across North America.
Desi Rainbow provides support, education, and advocacy for an intergenerational community of South Asian LGBTQIA+ people and their families based in North America.
An intergenerational Desi Diaspora community that values, affirms and celebrates diversity of gender and sexuality.



Desi Rainbow was conceived in 2017 for South Asian families and friends of lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer and questioning people — to learn about LGBTQIA+ issues, find community with one another, and learn how to better support their loved ones.
We serve Desi individuals and families who trace their origins to South Asia, including India, Pakistan, Bangladesh, Sri Lanka, Nepal, Bhutan and the Maldives. Most of our members are in the United States and Canada, but our reach extends wherever there is a South Asian diaspora. We welcome and celebrate diversity of religion, class, caste and experience. We aim to foster understanding and acceptance among families, with the goal of affirming and celebrating our LGBTQIA+ loved ones.
We started out intending to support parents and build allyship, and that is still the core of who we are. But many of the people who reached out were LGBTQIA+ themselves, struggling with family acceptance and asking to speak to an accepting Desi parent who could give them hope. So we grew into something intergenerational — LGBTQIA+ people, parents, siblings, aunts, uncles, and community members who simply decided this should exist.
Almost all of our work is virtual. We host monthly online support and discussion groups for parents and family members of LGBTQIA+ people, and for LGBTQIA+ people struggling with family acceptance. We offer educational programs like Proud Possibilities, which features LGBTQIA+ possibility models for our community, as well as speaker events on topics such as mental health and raising transgender children.
We are dedicated to the idea that being proud and visible, supporting others and telling our stories will transform the lives of LGBTQIA+ children of all ages, and of their families. Our team grows every day with people who want to volunteer their time, their skills and their empathy. Nearly everyone involved is a volunteer.
Celebrations, speakers and community gatherings, plus our two monthly support groups and Saathi one-to-one peer support.
Celebrations, conversations and community. Find your next Desi Rainbow event here.
Friday, November 13, 2026
6pm ET · Brooklyn, NY
Celebrate the Festival of Lights, queer style: drag artists and performers, a queer mela marketplace with vendors, and more than 250 guests.
Get ticketsSaturday, October 3, 2026
4pm ET · North Potomac, MD
A book discussion and dinner with author Manil Suri about his new memoir, A Room in Bombay. The address is sent with your ticket.
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Four Desi Rainbow parents, in their own words, in short films released at the end of 2021. We share our journeys so other families can listen, learn, and know they are not alone.
Hemakshi Gordy (she/her) has been making films since 2018, when her short documentary won first place in C-SPAN's StudentCam competition.
Sonali Gulati (she/her) is an independent filmmaker, feminist, queer rights activist, Guggenheim Fellow, and Professor at Virginia Commonwealth University's School of the Arts. Her films have screened at over four hundred festivals worldwide.
Fighting hate with love, in public. We speak up for LGBTQIA+ South Asians and their families in schools, in policy and in our own communities.
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Read the statementThe Trump Administration is threatening life-saving healthcare for vulnerable trans children by publishing a rule on August 11, 2026, that prohibits federal Medicaid funds from being used to provide medically necessary care to transgender youth under age 18.
Read the statementThe Supreme Court issued two decisions on June 30th, one that we celebrate wholeheartedly, and one that disappoints and saddens us.
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Read the statementBy Rayman Kaur Mathoda. First appeared in American Kahani.
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The Trump Administration is threatening life saving healthcare for vulnerable trans children by publishing a rule on August 11, 2026, that prohibits federal Medicaid funds from being used to provide medically necessary care to transgender youth under age 18 (and Children’s Health Insurance Program [CHIP] funds under age 19). We stand with the parents and families facing attacks on their health care by the Trump administration.
We urge health care providers and hospitals to continue to fulfill their duties and obligations to protect the health of all patients. This is a wake up call for states to take aggressive actions to protect essential medical care and push back on this unprecedented federal overreach.
The Supreme Court issued two decisions on June 30th, one that we celebrate wholeheartedly, and one that disappoints and saddens us.
As an organization that serves South Asian LGBTQIA+ immigrants and their families, Desi Rainbow celebrates the Supreme Court’s rejection of the attack on birthright citizenship. This decision upholds a constitutional promise that has protected generations of Americans, and ensures that South Asian American children are guaranteed citizenship regardless of their parents’ immigration status.
At the same time, we are saddened by the Supreme Court’s decision to allow state-level bans on transgender girls’ participation in sports to stand, including those previously passed in 27 states. This ruling is deeply disappointing and hurts trans youth and their families.
The bans single out trans girls for exclusion without context, treating a kindergarten soccer game the same way as an elite athletic event. Looking forward, we must work to replace bans with rules for participation that are tailored to achieve fairness in different sports at different ages and levels of competition. All students playing sports deserve to be treated with dignity and respect.
The 2025-2026 Supreme Court term has been a disappointing one for LGBTQIA+ rights and protections, with rulings that refuse to allow a state ban on conversion therapy (a dangerous and discredited practice) in Colorado and allow forced outing of trans students in California.
We believe that these rulings do not define the future of trans children or our LGBTQIA+ community and their families. No court ruling can diminish our power, our joy, or our resilience. We will continue our grassroots work to ensure that our community receives support, education and advocacy to weather these storms and continues to resist and thrive.
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About Desi Rainbow: Desi Rainbow is a national nonprofit organization dedicated to the vision of a South Asian diaspora where diversity of sexuality and gender is valued, affirmed and celebrated. About us.
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Desi Rainbow strongly condemns the passage of the Transgender Persons (Protection of Rights) Amendment Bill on March 26, which significantly rolls back rights that were established a decade ago. This bill actively harms transgender people by denying self-identification, narrows the legal definition of a transgender person to erase trans men, non-binary, and gender-fluid individuals from legal recognition and subjects trans people to scrutiny by state-appointed medical boards and district magistrates. Even more chilling is that the bill introduces severe penalties, including life imprisonment, for those who "abduct" or "forcefully alter" the identities of children or adults—provisions that could be used to target affirming parents, NGOs, medical providers, or chosen families that support trans youth,
We are appalled and saddened by the erasure of transgender rights in India in a single act that reverses a decade of progress.
We represent a large Indian American diaspora consisting of LGBTQIA+ South Asians and their parents and allies, who are proud of India’s trans community and its history of resilience. We stand in solidarity with trans people in India in their battle for legal recognition and equal rights.
If you need support to process this painful moment, here are some resources:
Today, like everyone trapped by flashing red hearts that jump out at you from every corner of the media, I’m thinking about love. Over the weekend, I met several couples for the first time and each of them exemplified what love is.
One couple had recently got married in a civil ceremony, with a small group of friends cheering them on. The joy on the faces in the photos they showed me on their phones was incandescent. They were queer Indian American women, and they told me their families hadn’t warmed to the idea at the time, but now, they were treated like any other married couple when they visited.
Another couple invited me for breakfast, and over a meal of tacos and chai, talked about how they had met through work. One partner was transgender and white, and the other cisgender and Indian. One was very tall, and one very short, and they smiled at each other as I told them what a lovely couple they make, and my heart melted. They shared their own story - one of their families having initial worries about the relationship, but eventually fully supportive, and the other facing complete rejection from their family.
What I’ve observed in my journey as an ally is that LGBTQ+ folks take love seriously. They have had to. They have had to battle families and communities that make them feel their same-sex attraction and gender identity is shameful as they are growing up. Many have faced emotional and physical violence as children and learned to protect themselves the hard way. As adults, they have faced a world where their love is considered illegal, wrong and disgusting. So when they find love, they claim it fully, wholeheartedly, and it is a beautiful thing to see.
In the USA, the law of the land has finally affirmed the right of LGBTQ+ people to marry and claim the right that all cisgender, straight people take for granted. In other parts of the world, including South Asia, this right is far from guaranteed. In Sri Lanka, the government just announced that it plans to decriminalize same-sex relationships. In India, while same-sex relationships were decriminalized in 2018, the Supreme Court will hear the petitions of gay couples demanding legalization of same-sex marriage in March. Winning these legal battles will make a huge difference to the fear and violence that LGBTQ+ people face, but the battle to change the attitudes, hearts and minds of all of society remains a much larger one.
This Valentine’s Day, I’m celebrating LGBTQ+ love in all its infinite beauty. Those flashing hearts should reflect all colors of the rainbow.

First appeared in American Kahani on June 1, 2022.
This Pride Month, if you are LGBTQ+ or have someone who is in your family or community, I urge you to educate yourself and speak up publicly about your support for the LGBTQ+ members in your temple, gurudwara, Diwali party and weddings.
I had no idea I was lesbian when I was growing up in India. Sure, I was privately drawn to and ‘in love’ with the beautiful Bollywood heroines, from Sadhna and Madhubala to Madhuri Dixit and later Deepika Padukone. But I still remember the first time I heard the word “queer” was at a dinner party in Chandigarh in the 1980s, in embarrassed whispers referencing someone at the party who’s son had a terrible disease (AIDS) and had died because he was gay.
Sure, I was a tomboy, but I was treated like a star in my family, since I was Delhi State Swimming Champion for many years in the 80s, excelled at academics, and also did well at extracurricular activities like public speaking. I built my vision for life based on a desire for social change and impact which was seeded as we hid in our house in Defence Colony in 1984, hiding from the dangerous mobs who might threaten our family and lives, and in long talks with my inspiring public servant father.
Till the day I came out to my loving and supportive family, I was a star in my Desi community. The best all-rounder from Modern School’s graduating class of 1992, and then a high-performing Ivy Leaguer who graduated from Princeton and achieved impressive sounding things like a job at a place like McKinsey, that the Desi community respected.
I didn’t think I would ever fall in love — that just did not seem like a priority given all my other goals, and the successful tradition of arranged marriage within my family. I was never attracted to any boy I grew up with or met, and I had embraced a life vision and plan which included arranged marriage into a top Sikh family followed by a storied business and political career in Punjab and India.
Then, inconveniently, and completely outside of my plans, I fell in love — with my soulmate, a woman. It happened in the U.S., at a high school reunion for our Indian high school in Los Angeles in April 1997, and it totally changed my life.
I decided — after a few years of trying to ignore my truth knowing how unsavory it was likely to be for my Desi family and community — to live a life based on truth, a fundamental principle of Sikhism embodied in the oft-repeated word Satnam — Truth is God. This was the only source of wisdom I had access to at the time, that I considered higher than my parents, who I deeply loved and respected.
I’m happy to share, 22 years after the terrible day I decided to ‘come out’ to my family that my story worked out quite well. I decided to stay in the U.S, become an American citizen, and pursue a career in business. I was able to achieve what some would consider extraordinary career success, including multiple high-profile CEO roles in the U.S. financial services and real estate sectors. I lived in a beautiful home in the Hollywood Hills, with my beautiful family including my wife and four children and contributed to many social and community causes I cared deeply about.
But my coming out wasn’t to be followed by feelings of Pride. Instead, it led to years, no decades, of shame, rejection, and pain for me and within my highly educated and progressive nuclear and extended birth family. That feeling of shame and non-acceptance continues today — though significant incremental progress was made on multiple fronts, and I know my family feels they have tried their best — as I struggle to accept the reality that my wife and children, including two sets of twins 9 and 11 years old each, may never see the places I grew up in that are core to my childhood and identity.
No gays of repute, I am told, come to Punjab with their spouses and children; the gay person may visit home but must come alone and for the duration of their visit, get back in the closet where their family typically sits. Coming out — an action considered core to the LGBTQ+ experience in the U.S. — is not a source of pride, but rather a source of shame given the community’s huge focus on, well, community.
And so, we find that LGBTQ+ South Asians are not “out and proud” — they are only as out as the most closeted important member of their family and community. This may explain why we see almost no publicly out LGBTQ desi role models who are famous, even today. Yes, that is slowly changing with the coming out of folks like Kal Penn, but most successful LGBTQ folks in South Asia and in the Desi Diaspora are still closeted.
The Desi diaspora must realize that the only way Desi LGBTQ+ individuals can live open lives of truth and acceptance — key to their mental health — is if our straight allies and family members come out in support of us, to protect us, to model the right behavior for others, especially elders, and to give LGBTQ+ children and youth shelter so they may become strong and prosper.
Having gone through life as a queer Indian American myself, I am particularly sensitive to the challenge that a child must face — in the U.S. and in India (where they may never be able to go to their village or hometown, even if they are the child of a congressperson!) — if they belong to the LGBTQ+ community openly.
Parents can educate themselves by speaking with other Desi (and non-Desi) parents of LGBTQ+ children such as Aruna Rao, the founder of Desi Rainbow Parents and Allies. These conversations can be incredibly helpful and clarifying. No matter what, support your child. This does not mean we should accept everything they tell us at face value, or that we should not ask them to think critically about their identity and feelings over an extended period of time. It just means you understand that LGBTQ+ youth overwhelmingly become depressed and suicidal unless they are supported by family and community on their journeys, and parents need to value their child and their mental health — more than than they value the potential judgment of others.
If you are LGBTQ+ or have someone who is in your family or community — and especially if you are NOT LGBTQ+ and don’t have someone like that in your family and community — I urge you to educate yourself, approach those who look or act differently, and speak up publicly about your support for the LGBTQ+ members in your temple, gurudwara, Diwali party and weddings.
Your simple act of speaking up may actually save a life.
Rayman Mathoda is mother to two sets of twins, Board Chair of Desi Rainbow Parents & Allies, Board Director for Mosaic Sustainable Finance & Sharestates, and Partner at Emerge Life Sciences.

Ah, the aroma of karaah prashad, the lingering sweet and milky flavor of payasam, the shimmering of the Diwali lights, the childlike anticipation of getting your Eidi or kharchi, or the excitement of ripping apart the gift wrapping of your Christmas presents! Desi Festivals take so many of us back to the memories of joyous and pompous celebrations.
However, these beautiful memories are often cut short with some bitter remnants of the past and the present. “I do not want to wear a sharara, Ajji! I feel like a boy inside.” “I do not want to pray for a future husband, Ma! I dream of getting married to a girl like me.” “No, Nanaji, your grandson dreams of a beautiful groom, not a beautiful bride.” These thoughts were kept buried deep inside the hearts, less often said. If uttered, they were often met with confused resentment. “Log kya kahenge? What will people say?” “Someone cast an evil eye on my kiddo.” “Why are you punishing us after all we did for you!” “You have changed.”
Even years after being in a comfortable space with their identity, a vast number of Desi Queer and Trans Folx are often left with minimal support from their families. If not outright rejection, it comes with a lot of passive rejection, often leading to estrangement and prolonged periods of distance. Queer and Trans Folx feel isolated, especially during the Desi Festivals, which at one point of time had been such an important part of their lives and included a sense of belonging and sharing with the family and the community. The other side of the picture is that the parents and the families of Queer and Trans Folx also feel isolated, exhausted, and rather helpless during these times of apparent joy and fun because of this emotional distance from their Queer and Trans loved ones, irrespective of where they themselves might be in their journey of acceptance.
This is what drives Desi Rainbow’s mission. More than being an organization, Desi Rainbow is a community, a chosen family, a welcoming space to the Queer and Trans Folx, a mentor to the parents and the families who are trying to move forward in their journeys of acceptance for their Queer and Trans family members.
The South Asian traditions are vast and diverse. One single festival is marked with different traditions. Desi Rainbow not only acknowledges this variance of cultural, religious, and social identities in the Desi Diaspora, but also provides a space to celebrate these festivals with your chosen Desi Rainbow Family in a manner that is not only inclusive of Queer and Trans Folx but rather celebrates their identities and their journeys. We provide a space where a Queer or a Trans person can be their complete, unadultered self and be celebrated for it.
In the past, we have hosted Faith and Family discussions about how Faith can be inclusive of Queerness. We recently celebrated a Dussehra/Garba Gupshup. It was heartwarming, even emotional, to see Desi Families come together to celebrate with their Queer and Trans children of different ages. We even met an adorable 9 year old trans kid. We are soon celebrating a Queer Gurupurab and are in the planning phase for Queer Christmas and Queer Eid.
This is what Desi Rainbow is about: celebration of Queerness in the most Desi way, with pomp and show. It is about Desi Families coming together, giving comfort to one another with their sheer existence, providing support to one another through their shared and diverse lived experiences.
Remember, the Rainbow is full of different colors. A Rangoli is made up of many hues and shapes. Henna leaves a whole different spectrum of red-brown hues on each person. This difference or rather the celebration of this difference makes us beautiful and very Desi. Here is hoping for every Desi Family in the world to celebrate every Desi Festival in the most Queer and Trans Affirming, Inclusive, and Celebratory manner.
As parents and allies, representatives of South Asian American and other organizations, and concerned community members, we reject the views expressed by Jack Ciattarelli and the American Hindu Coalition regarding the need for LGBTQ inclusive curriculum in New Jersey Public Schools, the expressed ignorance and bias about the experience of LGBTQ children, and assumption that all South Asian Americans and Hindu Americans do not support LGBTQ children.
Age appropriate LGBTQ inclusive curriculum ensures that our children, many of whom are aware of their gender identity and sexual orientation as early as kindergarten, feel supported and affirmed in school and among their peers. It also ensures that all children learn and respect LGBTQ identity and history. An age appropriate inclusive curriculum, along with other legal, social and cultural efforts, addresses the urgent need to save our children’s lives. LGBTQ+ children who face rejection at home, school and community are at elevated risk of depression, substance use and suicide.
We condemn the assumption that educating children about the diversity of human sexuality and gender identity is inherently wrong and against parental rights. Children in K-12 schools deserve to have their identities be affirmed in school, deserve to learn about their health and bodies, and deserve to be in a safe educational environment. There are South Asian Americans of all faiths and backgrounds who support the need for a diverse, inclusive, compassionate community that treats children of all sexual orientation and gender identity with love, respect and dignity.
We stand in solidarity with Desi Rainbow Parents & Allies on the need to support LGBTQ children and remove misinformation, bias and hatred in our schools and communities.
Today, we call on the Senate to swiftly pass the Equality Act, a landmark nondiscrimination and civil rights bill that would update existing federal laws to protect people from discrimination based on their sexual orientation and gender identity.
70% of Americans support the Equality Act, indicating that it has broad and deep support across political party, demographics, and geography.
We are a national organization representing the voices of South Asian American families – parents, allies and LGBTQIA+ people. We want our children and loved ones to have equal rights so they can live free of discrimination.
Anitha Chennat: As a loving and proud parent of an LGBTQ+ child I urge the Senate to vote YES when the Equality Act comes to the floor. As a South Asian immigrant, I fear for the safety of my child and our chosen family of LGBTQ+ people in the State of Michigan. We ask that you stand with us as we fight against discrimination and fear.
Kalpana and Madhu: We look to our legislative representatives to support the Equality Act. We are the parents of a Transgender Daughter and we need equality for her in all aspects of life. Health, Employment and Safety are important to us. We are counting on you.
Mona Patel: I ask that the Senate pass the Equality Act for my son Joshua, who is a gay man. He has had to advocate for himself and for other LGBTQ+ community members. I support the Equality Act because I love him.
Opponents of LGBTQIA+ equality continue to file discriminatory bills in states across the country in an attempt to undermine existing protections in adoption, marriage and access to basic public services and businesses. The Equality Act would ensure that all LGBTQIA+ Americans can live, learn, work, play, and access public spaces free from discrimination, no matter what state they call home.
Although 21 states and more than 330 cities have passed LGBTQIA+ nondiscrimination protections, half of LGBTQIA+ people live in states that still lack comprehensive statewide laws.
LGBTQIA+ people have won critical victories in the fight against discrimination in this last year, both at the Supreme Court with the decision banning LGBTQIA+ discrimination in employment in Bostock v. Clayton County and with President Biden’s recent pro-LGBTQIA+ executive orders. The Equality Act is still needed in spite of these victories in order to achieve full protections in employment, housing, and public accommodations.
In 2019, the Equality Act was introduced in the House of Representatives. It passed the House on May 17, 2019 with a bipartisan 236-173 vote. It was not heard in the Senate.
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Desi Rainbow Parents & Allies
PO Box 4454, 195 Central Ave
Metuchen, NJ 08840
Saathi means friend. Tell us a little about yourself and we'll match you with a trained volunteer who has lived something similar. It's free, and you schedule the call when it suits you.
In crisis? Don't wait on a form — call or text 988. More crisis resources
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Culturally competent, LGBTQIA+ affirming therapists are hard for our community to find. If a provider helped you or your family, tell us about them. Providers are welcome to add themselves.
We're building a community-sourced list to share with anyone who asks. Desi Rainbow doesn't endorse or recommend any provider on it.
In crisis? Don't wait on a form — call or text 988. More crisis resources
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Our monthly peer support group for South Asian LGBTQIA+ people, 18 and older. It meets on Zoom the first Tuesday of each month, 9pm ET / 8pm CT / 6pm PT.
Please register by 7pm ET on the day of the group, so we can send you the Zoom link in time.
In crisis? Don't wait on a form — call or text 988. More crisis resources
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For Desi parents and allied family members (siblings, grandparents, aunts, uncles) of LGBTQIA+ children of all ages. The group meets on Zoom the second Tuesday of each month, 9pm ET / 8pm CT / 6pm PT.
In crisis? Don't wait on a form — call or text 988. More crisis resources
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Our national WhatsApp community and its regional and affinity groups are for Desi Rainbow members. Become a member first (from $5 a month), then fill in this short form so we can keep the community safe.
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Commit publicly to standing with transgender children and adults in our families, communities and workplaces.
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Endorse our statement of solidarity with the need for LGBTQ+ inclusive curriculum in New Jersey public schools, and support for LGBTQ+ children. Read our statements.
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Desi Rainbow’s Advocacy Groups introduce members and families to advocating for queer and trans rights: sharing your story, talking with elected officials and fighting disinformation.
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We train Saathi peer supporters and support group facilitators ourselves, free, on a rolling basis. It’s one application for either role. You need lived experience, as an LGBTQIA+ Desi or as a family member, and the patience to listen.
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Hear about our advocacy efforts in real time, separate from the general newsletter. The Desi Rainbow Advocacy group is a grassroots coalition of LGBTQIA+ South Asians, their families and allies, organizing a response to legal, policy and social challenges to LGBTQIA+ rights.
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The Desi Rainbow Board Treasurer’s role involves governance and oversight, focusing on guiding financial strategy, ensuring compliance, leading budget development, presenting reports, managing fiscal policy, and protecting assets, working closely with the Executive Director, Board Chair and Board to maintain solvency and transparency for the organization’s mission.
A finance professional (CPA) and/or someone with a strong understanding of financial principles, budgeting, and nonprofit accounting is preferred.
Please email aruna@desirainbow.org if you are interested in contributing your time and skill to further our mission.
With gratitude,
The Desi Rainbow Board of Directors
Desi Rainbow Parents & Allies Inc. · PO Box 4454, 195 Central Ave, Metuchen, NJ 08840
A 501(c)(3) nonprofit, EIN 85-3352073
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This year has been filled with extraordinary challenges to the health and safety of the queer and trans community. In spite of this, our community has demonstrated the power of community building and resiliency during difficult times.
Thanks to you, we have been able to make a real difference and continue to support, educate and advocate for the rights of South Asian LGBTQIA+ people and their families. We wanted to highlight some of all the great work you’ve helped us accomplish this year!
“Being in a space with other Desi trans, gender non-conforming and non-binary folks – let alone LGBTQ+ muslims! – for an hour and a half has been so affirming, validating and confidence-boosting. Knowing I am not alone in my path or my experiences, remembering what everyone shared, I feel I can push through the next month with more hope and self-assurance than I’ve felt in a long while.”
The current outlook for LGBTQIA+ rights is grim: there has been a huge escalation in threats to fundamental rights, access to healthcare, and safety. With your help we have been able to successfully mobilize in response to these threats. This year we had:
Your support has also helped us join Advocates for Trans Equality and Muslim-led organizations in submitting an amicus brief to the Supreme Court supporting LGBTQ+ inclusive education, develop a policy explainer with the South Asian American Coalition, and lead efforts to urge school boards to protect trans children.
This is just the tip of the iceberg! More of our outreach and advocacy from this year:
Now more than ever, joyful and affirming in-person and virtual events and celebrations are so important for our community.
We have held events ranging from healing circles to picnics, concerts, panels and afternoon chai. These gatherings are transforming the experience of LGBTQIA+ Desis and their families, offering safe spaces to experience joy, grief and healing.
This year we were so happy to see so much queer Desi art! Throughout the year we co-sponsored and supported screenings and performances of queer-themed documentaries, films and plays, including Never Stand Down, Amma’s Pride, Queen of My Dreams, A Nice Indian Boy, Pooja, Sir and Ammigone. We were at the Philadelphia screening of A Nice Indian Boy, a New York screening of Amma’s Pride, and a National Coming Out Day screening of Never Stand Down in New York and online.
100% of our funding comes directly from those who feel the impact of our work: family members and allies of LGBTQIA+ loved ones and the LGBTQIA+ community. All of the work outlined above is because of you continuing to show up for us!
To help better serve you, we will be conducting a national survey of South Asian LGBTQIA+ and allied family needs that will collect important data on community needs.
We are also embarking on a strategic planning process to review our mission and vision, to continue translating our goals into action, and to build a resilient, thriving community.






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Mission & vision: Desi Rainbow Parents & Allies seeks to build a community where diversity of sexuality and gender are valued, affirmed and celebrated by all.
In 2015, one Desi mother in New Jersey struggled to find support from her community after her child came out. Not finding anything at all, she decided to start her own community resource. Now, we are a national community of Desi parents, allies and LGBTQ+ people dedicated to the idea that being proud and visible, supporting each other, telling our stories and advocating for community acceptance will transform the lives of LGBTQ+ children of all ages, and of their families.
Who we are: Our members are mostly in the United States, but our virtual reach extends to other parts of the South Asian diaspora across continents. We welcome and celebrate diversity of religion, class, caste and experience, and are united by our desire to support our Desi children and loved ones.
“Desiness is more multilayered than the biggest onion you can find. Desi Rainbow has helped me navigate my Desiness one layer at a time, from family to community to myself.”
“We have been struggling since our child came out. It’s good and comforting to see a forum with all of us who come from the same culture and upbringing.”
We launched Saathi, a peer support program that connects Desi Rainbow volunteers to LGBTQ+ people and parents who are seeking someone to talk to. We trained our first cohort of 13 volunteers: 5 LGBTQ+ folks and 8 parents of LGBTQ+ children ranging from 10 to 35. Our bilingual volunteers speak Hindi, Gujarati, Punjabi, Bengali, Telugu, Konkani, Kannada, Tamil, Marathi and Malayalam.
100% of Saathi support recipients said that they felt better prepared to face their challenges after speaking to a Saathi.
“Saathi support is a true blessing for people living in a closet. I was able to share my feelings, challenges, fears without feeling ashamed or guilty. Talking to my Saathi helped me feel better and super happy.”
“My Saathi made it a very comfortable and safe space. I felt like I was talking to a long lost relative or friend.”
Virtual interviews featuring LGBTQ+ icons and allies who are building relationships, families and communities. We show the Desi community that there are many possibility models for our children’s future. We featured Feroza Syed, trans and political activist; Congresswoman Pramila Jayapal, proud parent of a trans child; and Priya Arora, journalist and Queering Desi host. 208 people attended live and hundreds more watched on social media, and 100% said they learned more about life and career possibilities for LGBTQ+ people.
7 episodes of Story Time, featuring drag artists, parents, performers and LGBTQ+ activists reading affirming children’s stories. 78 families with young children and allies came to listen and enjoy, and 100% agreed that they learned about inclusion through Story Time and would recommend it to a friend.
A series of allyship workshops with Meera, a queer South Asian artist, writer and coach who brings radical honesty and insight into telling her story and bringing allies closer to understanding the queer and trans experience. Storytelling was followed by in-depth Q&A that changed hearts and minds.
Thanks to our 2021 donors and supporters for believing in our work! Over 99% of our funding comes from community donors. If your company or organization has matching or giving programs, please consider supporting Desi Rainbow Parents & Allies. To give today, visit our Donate page.
Pinnacle Circle: 2 anonymous donors.
Celebration Circle: 8 anonymous donors; Abhilasha Madan, Anitha Chennat, Anuradha Maniklal, Anuradha Sachdev, Asha Rao & Sajai Krishnan, Hivebrite, Inc, Kalpathi & Vidya Mohan, Parag Mehta & Vaibhav Jain, Priya Shah, Renu Aggarwal, Shikha Chivukula, Sri Chivukula.
Pride Circle: 18 anonymous donors; Ajit Joshi, Anya & Anvi Fenn, Arcadis, Inc, Mona Khan Company, Reema Mody, Shari Emeth.
Acceptance Circle: 10 anonymous donors; Anupam Goel, Aparajeeta Duttchoudhry, Koshy Matthews, Krishna Hegde & Aruna Rao, Rachna Khare, Rajiv Gulati, Sujatha & Siddharth Purkayastha, Sonya Mehta, Vijay Mehta.
Supporter Circle: 45 anonymous donors; Bhavani Chandramouli, Jesse Vernon, Kamal Jethwani, Rachel Phillips, Reshna Maniklal, Shilpa Kulkarni, Sunita Viswanath, Valerie Ploumpis.
Friends Circle: 25 anonymous donors; Farah Kidwal, Ruchi Kotia.
Booster Circle: 32 anonymous donors; Allison Ansari, Neha Goel, Semhar Kifle.
Board of trustees: Rayman Kaur Mathoda (she/her), Board Chair; Lesley Kingston Koda (he/him), Board Co-Chair; K.S. Mohan (he/him), Treasurer; Manjula Balakrishnan (she/her), Secretary; Anupam Dev Goel (he/him), Communications & Technology.
Staff, coordinators and consultants: Aruna Rao (she/her), Executive Director; Vidya Mohan (she/her), Finance Coordinator; Stephen Jiwanmall (he/him), Support Groups Coordinator; Hima Sathian (they/them), Saathi Coordinator; Sri Chivukula (she/her), Publications Coordinator; Anitha Chennat (she/her), Events Coordinator; Sapna Pandya (she/her), Development Consultant.
Our deepest gratitude goes out to the dozens of team members who offer their time, skill and support to keep our programs of support, education and advocacy operational. We couldn’t do it without you!
Wherever you are in your journey, we have three free ways to connect: two monthly support groups and one-to-one Saathi peer support. Open to people living in North America.
First Tuesday, every month
9pm ET / 8pm CT / 6pm PT
By and for South Asians who identify as LGBTQIA+. Peer-to-peer discussion on family acceptance, with guest accepting parents who listen and share their own journeys.
LGBTQIA+ people need support when their family does not understand or affirm their identity — a peer, or an aunty or uncle, who will listen and give them room to hold both pride in who they are and grief for the family and community support they've lost. This group is for adults over 18.
RegisterSecond Tuesday, every month
9pm ET / 8pm CT / 6pm PT
Parents and family members at all acceptance stages welcome. A space to ask questions and express grief, anger or confusion without fear of shaming.
Families need support to navigate the complicated journey toward accepting and affirming their child's identity — and support as cisgender, straight people learning about LGBTQIA+ identity for the first time.
RegisterOne-to-one, scheduled
Matched to your availability
Saathi means friend. Sometimes we all need one to listen to our concerns, reassure us, and offer a hand with information and support — and for Desi LGBTQIA+ people and their families, that isn't easy to find.
You're matched with a trained volunteer who has lived something similar — an LGBTQIA+ Desi, or a parent or family member of one — and you schedule a call when it suits you. They listen, support, and offer referrals.
Request a SaathiTrain as a facilitator for either support group, or as a Saathi. It is one application. Training is free, and we accept people on a rolling basis.
Desi Rainbow provides a supportive and affirming space for South Asian LGBTQIA+ people and their families to talk about family relationships and learn about gender identity and sexual orientation.
Our groups are peer-led by volunteers who are themselves LGBTQIA+ or parents and allies. Guest experts are sometimes invited to speak on particular topics, but we do not give advice or medical information. Topics vary; the focus is on learning to support and affirm your child or loved one. Our groups are life-changing for many people — and they are not a substitute for professional mental health care.
Saathi was the first to respond and quick to set up a meeting to help me talk things through. I really appreciate the safe space they are creating for individuals like myself.
Just witnessing and being in a space with other desi trans, gender non-conforming and non-binary folks — let alone LGBTQ+ Muslims! — has been so affirming, validating and confidence-boosting.
From Desi Rainbow participant surveys.
You only fill in the registration form once. After that, come whenever you can.
Request a Saathi instead — one-to-one peer support scheduled around your availability. You can also join our WhatsApp community for national and regional groups.
Stay in the loop. Join the mailing list and we'll send meeting reminders, recordings and one-off events.
Not yet. We're mostly volunteer-run and our capacity is limited. Our support programs currently serve people living in North America / on Turtle Island. If you're elsewhere, our resources page lists organizations better placed to help.
Saathi means friend. You're matched with a trained volunteer who has lived something similar — an LGBTQIA+ Desi, or a parent or family member of one. You talk privately, one-to-one, by phone or video, at a time that suits you. They listen, support, and offer referrals.
A Saathi is a peer, not a therapist or a crisis line. Request a Saathi and we'll be in touch to set up your first call.
Our national WhatsApp community and its regional and affinity groups are for Desi Rainbow members. Become a member first (from $5 a month; a fee waiver is linked in the membership form for anyone experiencing financial hardship), then fill in the short WhatsApp form so we can keep the community safe.
Desi Rainbow depends entirely on individual donors like you. To make a one-time or recurring gift, visit our donate page — your employer may match it.
Become a member. Membership brings early access to event tickets, special rates on major events such as Pyar is Pyar, member-only events, our regional and identity-based WhatsApp community, recordings of educational presentations and speakers, and swag — t-shirts, pins and bracelets. A fee waiver is linked in the membership form for anyone experiencing financial hardship.
Become a fundraiser by sharing our Fifth Anniversary campaign with your communities. And volunteering is another great way to help — from graphic design to event coordination, or training as a peer supporter.
Share the Fifth Anniversary campaign Become a member Volunteer with us
Films, celebrations and conversations with South Asian LGBTQIA+ people and their families.
Our newest videos, straight from our YouTube channel.
Activist Laverne Cox preferred "possibility model" to "role model." These are conversations with LGBTQIA+ Desis about building relationships, families and communities.
An Out & Proud conversation with Apurva Asrani
Episode 1: Colin & Andrew
Episode 2: Sapna & Sahar, with Saira Kiran
Episode 3: Feroza Syed
Episode 4: Anjali Rimi & her mother, Gauri K
Episode 5: Celia Sandhya Daniels & Sasha
Episode 6: Congresswoman Pramila Jayapal
Episode 7: Ben Haseen
Episode 8: Priya Arora and Reema
Episode 9: Surbhi Sahni
Episode 11: Sunu ChandyAffirming festival celebrations across South Asian faiths, with faith leaders who welcome LGBTQIA+ people and their families as they are.
Queerness and Buddhism
What does it mean to celebrate Buddha Jayanti?
Disability and LGBTQ
Navroz Mubarak!
Desi Rainbow celebrates Dussehra!
Dussehra Panel
Eid-al-Fitr Panel
Desi & Muslim parents and activists talk about faith and family
Sadaf Jaffer on allyship and Islam
Imam Kandeel's prayer for Eid 2021
Eid Mubarak from Omar Najmi
Mona Shaikh's Eid comedy and message
Ayman's Eid make-up demo
Ramadan Mubarak from Rizwan Jagani
Rev. Dr. Koshy Matthews on acceptance
Rev. Winnie Varghese on inclusion
Rev. Ranjit Mathews on God's love
Rev. Koshy Mathews' Christmas message
Rev. Koshy Mathews' Christmas message (2)Desi drag artists read children's books to a live audience, for families with kids and anyone who loves a story.
Episode 1: Story Time with Mango Lassi
Episode 2: Story Time with Lal Batti
Episode 3: Story Time with Bijuriya
Episode 4: Story Time with Abhijeet
Episode 5: “Finding Om” with Dr. Rashmi Bismark
Episode 7: “Dancing in Thatha's Footsteps” with Chintan Patel
Episode 8: “Ritu Weds Chandni” with Sapna Pandya
Episode 9: “Birds of a Feather” with Kama La MackerelMissed an event? Most of our films, panels, celebrations and Story Time sessions are on YouTube.
Browse our playlists
Desi Rainbow is run almost entirely by volunteers: support group facilitators, Saathis, film editors and more. Here’s how to join them.
We are the only organization in the United States providing a voice and forum for this national, intergenerational and allied community. Members get early access to event tickets, special rates on major events such as Pyar is Pyar, member-only events, our regional and identity-based WhatsApp community, recordings of educational presentations, and swag.
Experiencing financial hardship? A fee waiver is linked in the membership form, or email info@desirainbow.org. No questions asked.
Become a memberWe train Saathis and support group facilitators ourselves, free, on a rolling basis. You need lived experience — as an LGBTQIA+ Desi or as a family member — and the patience to listen.
Apply for trainingGraphic design, event coordination, video editing, translation, grant writing. Tell us what you're good at and we'll find where it fits.
Fill out the volunteer formConnect with other Desi families and LGBTQIA+ people through our national WhatsApp community and its regional and affinity groups.
Membership is required before joining the WhatsApp community.
Join the WhatsApp communityOpen to anyone who wants to help, whether or not you’re a student. Each role is about 2–3 hours a week, and all our events are virtual.
For someone skilled in graphic design and media development. You'll develop graphics and edit media for all our events and programs.
Qualifications: experience with a digital design tool, Canva preferred.
To apply: samples of your work and two references.
Social media management and engagement — designing posts, posting to a schedule, and shaping the strategy and themes that build our presence.
Qualifications: experience running social campaigns across platforms, designing posts, and growing an audience.
To apply: samples of your work and two references.
Logistical and technical support for events. You'll help develop new and existing events, and assist moderators in setting up and hosting them.
Qualifications: experience developing and running virtual events; virtual fundraising experience welcome.
To apply: two references.
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Culturally competent, affirming providers are genuinely hard for our community to find. If someone helped you, tell us — we're building a referral list to share with anyone who asks. Providers are welcome to add themselves.
Suggest a provider
We started with one person running community calls. We’re now a group of parents, LGBTQIA+ people, siblings, aunts and uncles. Each person brings their own perspective to the mission — get in touch if you'd like to join us.
Chair
(she/her)
A Sikh-American lesbian, multi-time CEO, social entrepreneur and community activist who has served on corporate and community boards.
Board Member
Holds a PhD in Sociology and directs a university community engagement center. Believes centering our response in love is a powerful counter to the current moment.
Founding Board Member
(he/him)
Former Communications Coordinator who, in Desi Rainbow’s formative years, partnered closely with Aruna (Executive Director) to help establish the organization. An IIT Delhi graduate and first-generation immigrant from a small town in India, Anupam is a technology leader across startups and financial institutions who believes in using technology to bring people together and build a more accessible, inclusive and accepting world.
Board Member
(he/him)
A student affairs leader who has opened and guided cultural & identity centers across three universities, and now leads the Center for Diversity & Inclusion at WashU in St. Louis.
Board Member
A strong advocate for the LGBTQIA+ community, Sandhya volunteers with Sambhali USA, which supports independence for women in rural Rajasthan and safe houses for local LGBTQIA+ people. A data strategy Director by profession, Sandhya also mentors women entering STEM and data careers.
Executive Director
(she/her)
Founded Desi Rainbow after a 20-year career in mental health advocacy focused on immigrant families. Proud parent of a transgender son.
Support Program Manager
(they/them)
Came to Desi Rainbow in 2021 seeking support bridging their identities — Assamese, Muslim, American, queer, transgender and nonbinary.
Saathi Peer Support Coordinator
(they/them)
A Malayali queer and non-binary social worker and trauma therapist with a decade of LGBTQIA+ support and advocacy experience.
Records and Finance
(she/her)
Emigrated to the U.S. from Bengaluru and lives in New Jersey with her husband. Mother of two. Eight years on the Board of Trustees of Guruvaayoorappan Temple in Marlboro, NJ, and a long history of volunteer leadership — walk-a-thons, education and social services. She enjoys traveling and reading.
Communications Manager
Board Member
We're recruiting. If you've read this far and recognized yourself, we'd like to hear from you.
Treasurer
We're recruiting for this role too — the finance seat on the board.
Desi Rainbow depends entirely on individual donors like you to sustain our programming. Many employers match gifts to Desi Rainbow, so ask yours and your gift could go twice as far.
We are a federally recognized non-profit 501(c)(3) organization and all donations are tax exempt.
We accept credit card, Venmo, PayPal and bank transfers via GiveButter.
We hold Candid’s Gold Seal of Transparency for 2026.
Many companies match their employees’ donations to Desi Rainbow. Search for Desi Rainbow Parents & Allies in your workplace giving portal (for example, Benevity), or ask your HR team about matching gifts. If they ask for our EIN, it’s 85-3352073.
We are grateful for all our Supporters!
To mail a check: Desi Rainbow Parents & Allies, PO Box 4454, 195 Central Ave, Metuchen, NJ 08840
Desi Rainbow Parents & Allies Inc. is a federally recognized 501(c)(3); EIN 85-3352073. Financial and other information about our charity's purpose, programs and activities can be obtained by contacting Aruna Rao, Executive Director, 195 Central Ave #4454, Metuchen, NJ 08840, 732-343-3015. Contributions are deductible for federal income tax purposes in accordance with applicable law. Registration in a state does not imply endorsement, approval or recommendation by the state.